Saturday, June 29, 2013

I No Longer Shop in the Store

Disclaimer:  These are my own personal experiences.  I have only shopped at the mall ONE time in 18 months.  No reason really except that I got tired of waiting for dressing rooms and rude people.  Not to mention the lack of enough sale associates.  It was annoying.  I do go to certain stores near my house but that's about it.  The rest is done online. 
 
Before I can really discuss how I online shop, I have to mention how I view my wardrobe.  Please keep in mind that I am plus size so my shopping experience is different.  That’s just the way it is.  There are some stores that I am unable to shop because they don’t cater to my size.  That’s fine and I’m okay with that. 

This is from many years of hit or miss.  My fashion transformation happened 10 years ago from an episode of “What Not to Wear”.  The impact of that show on me is life changing.  I literally started over.  I spent a lot and I mean a lot of time over the period of three years building my wardrobe from ground zero.  I did follow most of “the rules” Stacy and Clinton gave to women of my build and size.  As time went on, I developed my own set of rules.  These rules are fluid and can change.

When shopping online, you need to have a tape measure.  It’s is your best friend.  It’s been a life saver especially when the lingerie shop that I have used for years to purchase my bras closed last year.  I’ve been unable to find another store that can come close to their knowledge base or customer service.  Therefore, I started buying my bras online and because of precise measurements, I’ve done well with having the right bra.  I need support because I got some nice sized tatas. 

I view my wardrobe in three ways. 

1.       Foundational/Investment Pieces – “The Basics” are pieces of clothing in my wardrobe that are in it for the long haul.  They build the foundation of my wardrobe. These can be high priced items relative to my budget.  An example would be a jacket.  I have jackets that retailed for $100 but I was able to score for maybe $60.  For me, that is a lot of money on one piece for me.  I am open to paying more than that for a piece but that is mentioned in #3. These pieces usually come from my higher end stores.  This is relative to the person. 

2.      Disposable Pieces – These are pieces of clothing that come and go.  Pieces that maybe you may not pay much for and can even be cheap.  These are what I call “fillers”.  This determines what type of stores I may shop in for these pieces.  Many times, these pieces come from lower end stores.  Stores that you are not always going to find the highest of quality of clothing.  Now, you may find quality stuff but that is not always the case. 

3.      Special Pieces – These are pieces of clothing that have that something “special”.  They are pieces that will be around for years.  The pieces may even be “classics”.  They are more than foundational.  This is where I may pay outside of my normal price point.  For example, I have three pairs of Enzio Angiolini shoes that I paid around $100 a pair when I was building my wardrobe.  They are around 10 years old and were early purchases but I wear them a lot.  They will never go out of style.  These pieces can come from anywhere.  They can be anything from accessories to a shirt.  These finds can even come from Wal-Mart and have on a few occasions.

Viewing things this way allows me to pretty much shop as I want unless it is something extremely expensive.  I keep pins on Pinterest to guide me and I bookmark things.  Each paycheck, I allow myself a certain amount of money.  I can go a while and not shop.  I’ve had to do that in some lean times. My husband has been laid off or had his teaching position cut twice in the past three years. He teaches in detox centers and stuff.  Not the traditional teaching positions.  Therefore, adjustments have to be made.  We are both teachers.  I went the traditional route so I’ve had the same position for years.  This is important to how I shop because it has forced me to learn to get more bang for my buck.  That is my whole focus with online shopping.  I find that I am much more successful than in store shopping.  Go figure.  This has just happened within the last two years.  I’ve learned how to manipulate online coupons and stuff. It just happened. 

I’m plus size so when I use a site, I may have to return things a few times until I get the right size.  www.onestopplus.com usually lets you return stuff for free if you get the right coupon code with free returns.  A tape measure is your best friend.  I’ve been really lucky on this because I usually get it right on the first try.  Once you learn a websites sizing, it’s easy to get it right.  (I can’t say this enough: tape measure!).  Not true with Target.  I refuse to buy clothes from Target because they do not post size charts in the USA.  I think that is crappy.  I do purchase shoes but not that often. 

The answer for me has been blogs.  I shop blogs. Not just trolling fashion blogs.   I use the codes posted for things that I want or need.  Not just fashion blogs but coupon bloggers.  It’s amazing some of the stuff I have bought for practically nothing by going to certain websites.  I think of www.freejewelry.com.  I’ve purchased some fabulous jewelry there for practically nothing especially if I do referrals and get a credit.  I found out about that place from an online coupon blogger site, http://coupondivas.com/.  Many of these sites do more than grocery coupons.  They list daily places you can go to get random stuff on the cheap that is posted on my Facebook newsfeed.   I’ve purchased a sterling silver peacock necklace from Kohl’s that retails for $18 for around $7 based upon a “tip” from one of these type of sites.  They had a coupon code and there was a huge sale on accessories that week so I was able to get a huge discount.  This is the necklace:  http://www.kohls.com/product/prd-806151/mudd-silver-tone-simulated-crystal-peacock-long-pendant.jsp.

I have specific sites that I shop for specific things.  This has developed over the past few years. 

For #1:  Investment/Foundational pieces, I will shop at the following stores and it is easy to get coupon codes for these sites. I’ve NEVER paid full price!!!!  These are the sites that I frequent:  Lane Bryant, Simply Be, Land’s End, Macy’s.  My go to place is www.onestopplus.com.  They carry stuff from higher end plus size retailers to lower end stuff.  This has been my go to place.  I’ve purchased some awesome stuff from there for great discounts.  I go to Google and type in “coupon codes” for the website and use www.ebates.com.  I buy disposable items from there too.  They do exchanges easily.  Their customer service has been awesome.  The customers give honest reviews.  That’s important to me for the online shopping experience. 

For #2:  Disposable Pieces, I shop mostly at Dots.  You have to look past the club wear. I’ve scored wrap dresses that I have had for over five years for under $10 from the clearance rack.  They are of good quality and will be around awhile.  I have a store within 5 miles of my home.  I physically go in their store at least once a week.  I use their website too but their coupons are the same in store/online.  That has been my experience.  If I can’t find something I want in store, I go online and get it.  Their exchange policy is liberal.  If I buy something online and it does not fit right or I end up not liking how it fits, they have always given me a refund.  Usually, I will just buy something else.  Their jewelry is cute.  Their plus size belts are great.  I’ve never paid over $6 for a stylish belt. 

For #3:  Special Pieces, I shop anywhere for these.  You never know when or where these may turn up.  For example, I became obsessed with a Michael Kors purse about a year ago but the thought of paying $350 + for a purse scared the living crap out of me. I have never paid over $50 for a leather purse.   However, I’ve watched online reviews over and over on www.youtube.com.  My husband would laugh at me.  I wanted that purse so bad.  I would drool over it.  I found similar ones at TJ Maxx (it’s in the same shopping center as Dots) but not the exact same one I wanted.  I could not handle a cheaper version.  I wanted this http://www.overstock.com/Clothing-Shoes/Michael-Kors-North-South-Hamilton-Large-Leather-Tote/7881350/product.html.  I watched it for weeks.  The price never really changed anywhere online.  I was gifted some money from my parents and was told to buy something “crazy” and “luxurious”.  Well, you know what I did…yes, I bought the purse.  Here’s what I paid but I actually got it for less:

Description
Qty
Total Price
Status/Tracking
https://ak-s.ostkcdn.com/images/products/7881350/T15264127.jpg
1
$354.99
Shipped 04-02-2013UPS 1Z841YY00284650590

 

Subtotal:
$354.99
Discount:
-$40.00
Shipping:
$31.88
Total:
$346.87


I did pay that much upfront but ended up way less.  I had it shipped in 2 days because I wanted it NOW…! Here is how:  I joined www.freeshipping.com for a month and got a check about 3 weeks later for $20 and then I deactivated the account.  Next, I got money back from Ebates in the amount of

04/01/2013
122655464
$314.99
$7.87

$346.87 – 20.00 = $326.87 – $7.87 = $319.00.  Had I not expressed shipped, my total would have been below $300.  Then I was able to fill out some survey for them and I got a coupon for $5 off my next purchase and free shipping upgrade.  I still have it.  I have a year!

At the time, this was the best deal.  Even better than in the store, I had some friends that would check prices for me, at the mall since I hate the mall.  Never went below the online price.  I checked Ebay and online designer exchanges but I was determined to get me a new one.  It was worth every single penny!  I would sleep with it if it would not be weird.  =)

Online treasure…EBAY!  I’ve been extremely blessed to find all kinds of stuff on there.   It’s like my own online thrift shop.  If you find good sellers, returns and shipping are cheap or free.  One Ebay store I shop gives 2.5% cash back with each purchase.    

I know this is a lot of information but this is experience.  I love to recreate outfits on a budget for plus size and just happen to be good at it.  However, I have no desire to be an online blogger or anything.  I have way too much going on in my life but I enjoy going to blogs and learning. 

List of retailers that I use and coupon codes are easy to get on Google:

www.landsend.com  (clothing) High end

www.lanebryant.com  (clothing) High end

www.onestopplus.com  (all items) Low to high end.  My shipping is always $2.99 because I pay $19.99 a year for that.  However, sometimes, you can get it for free if you spend so much.  I’m on automatic renewal for this. 

A good example of a deal!  I used this to recreate an outfit.


I bought these in black and they were $44.99.  I used a coupon and got them for this:

Item
Size
Qty
Status
Return Instructions
Details
Price
Total
7 1/2 W
1
BACKORDER SHIPPED 06/20/13
Return Item
$13.49
$13.49

 

www.simplybe.com  (clothing) High end.  These are investment pieces because even with coupon codes for up to 30%-50% off, there stuff is expensive but extremely high quality. 

www.macys.com  Low to high end.  (clothing) 

www.walmart.com (clothing and accessories) Low to high end. I bought a gorgeous contemporary cameo cuff for $30 from them but from the company www.wayfair.com.  I consider this an investment piece.  I will die with it.  I don’t wear it but for special occasions.

www.kohls.com  (clothing and accessories) Medium end. You can get killer deals on stuff especially if there is a sale and coupon codes are easy to get.

www.jcpenny.com  (clothing and accessories) Medium end.  I only buy clearance from here because there coupons are not that great.  However, their plus size stuff is good.

www.debshops.com (clothing) Low end. Their stuff is reasonable and easy to get coupon codes.

www.6pm.com (shoes only).  Their stuff is great.  I bought my first pair of Steve Madden pumps from here and they were only $39.99.  Rare coupons but you don’t need it.  Usually can get good deals.

www.shoedazzle.com (shoes and purses only) 

www.justfab.com (shoes and purses only)

www.payless.com (shoes only)

www.freejewelry.com (jewelry only)

www.shoplately.com (jewelry only)

www.forever21.com (jewelry only)

 There's more but I could go on and on.  Bottom line:  look for coupon codes!